Romantic gay dads traveling the world with their children? You bet!

By @ 02/15/13 in Gay family travel, Gay travel, ManAboutWorld, Travel

havenOur newest correspondent, Haven Calor, is a traveling dad. Here is his first blog post.

It was July 4, 2009 in New York City, Manhattan. Sean, my husband, and I strolled from  42nd Street back up 8th Avenue to our hotel after seeing a light-hearted, romantic comedy in the evening. It was a warm evening, the stroll was romantic, and we touched hands for a few seconds and gazed into each other’s eyes: what an apropos moment for a married, gay couple of 5 years.

We even had fireworks from the Hudson River as a backdrop; however, something/some things were missing … our two, 9 month old twins, Ammon and Carter who were back home in Tennessee with grandparents. Almost simultaneously we said, “I miss the babies.”

We were no longer a family of 2 who had blithely roamed cities in the United States and Europe. We were a blissful family of 4. That  4th of July night in New York City we vowed that we four would travel as a family and do things as a family because we were both in our forties, had been through so much (failed adoptions, in vitro fertilization, surrogates!) to have our children. We wanted to enjoy every minute both together as a couple and with our children.

Friends, I know from experience now, this is the time of life that your children want to be with you. They idolize you, they want to emulate you, they love your company, and they want to play with you. I’ve taught middle school and high school-aged children for almost 25 years, and, as we all know, there is a time coming when our children will not want to be with us.

Sean and I don’t club hop, stay in posh hotels, or have expensive, romantic dinners. We have the money  (Sean is a physician, and I am a university professor) to travel with children, and leave them with a full-time nanny (or nannies) while we do what we adults want to do, but we want to be parents.

Labor Day week of 2012 Sean and I spent our wedding anniversary in Las Vegas….with Carter and Ammon! We four had a blast! What did these “DadsAboutWorld” do with their children in Las Vegas? Where did we stay, and what did we do? Please allow me to tell you in the next blog!

 

 

 

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16 comments


  1. Will

    Kudos to this couple and their lovely children. Looking forward to reading more.

  2. debbie farmer

    love it, love it, love it !

  3. Linda Pascal

    What a great and wonderful experience for your kids to get to travel with two parents who care! Haven, you are correct when you mentioned that one day they will not be as thrilled to be around you. As a mom of two grown sons, I speak from the heart. So have fun now creating those lasting memories that can NEVER be taken away!

  4. Jessica Griffis

    Looks good! You definitely leave people wanting more. 🙂 You will have to send me a link to your next post. Thank you for sharing.

  5. janie@spataro.com

    I am looking forward to hearing more about your travels, and learning how to have fun with small children while doing so.

  6. L

    Haven enjoyed your post hope to read more in the future. Can tell that you really enjoy being a parent to Ammon and Carter.

  7. Dot McCrory

    Okay, I’m hooked. Tell me more. As a retired high school counselor, I can agree with you that a time will come when the kids will sever ties with the old folks, but there are exceptions.
    I don’t know for certain what makes the difference but I think you and Sean are on the right track: togetherness, warmth, love, sharing………….

  8. missy

    In a world where so many people want to get away from their realities (jobs, kids, responsibilities…) it is definitely heart-warming to see your desire to include the family while still recognizing your couple-dom.

  9. Patrick

    Those children are truly blessed to have such amazing parents! I can’t wait to read more!

  10. Paul

    Can’t wait for your next post!

  11. Keely

    Haven and Sean are brave parents traveling with small children, being examples to the rest of us about parenting our children and cherishing every moment spent with them.

  12. Claire

    Beautiful vision of a loving family and two loving, devoted parents. You are my heroes in this narrow minded world.

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  16. Jeannie

    Wonderful! I can’t wait for the next one!!!!

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